The Ascending Path

Welcome to the Ascending Path

 Hello, and welcome to The Ascending Path. As we approach a significant time portal in our history, so many choices are set out before us. Making choices requires a full understanding of that which you are choosing from. Seeking knowledge and understanding has been a life quest of mine.  I am a fellow traveler in this life who has endeavored to understand the complexities of this thing we call Reality on all levels. As such, this quest to explore has led me down many paths, from which I have learned a great deal.

I seek to share some of what I have come to understand, and to hopefully, help others in their own unfolding process of the Ascending Path of Consciousness Evolution.  I firmly believe that unless we have a change in our consciousness awareness of ourselves and how we interact with the fabric of Reality, we, as a race, will be ever plagued with the problems which have besieged us for many thousands of years. Things such as wars, violence, suffering, and the like will not be able to be truly resolved until we embrace this Higher Reality of who we are and how we interact with what is literally a fabric of Reality through the quantum field. And, the ability of those who are perceived to be more powerful than us will be able to control us evermore unless we awaken to who we really are. We are manifestations of Divine Consciousness in form. Yet we are also beyond form as well. Here we are at the prepuce of quantum changes in our perception of all that is. We, as a Race of Humanity, have been asleep in our consciousness for a long time. It is time to wake up to the world as it really has become while we slept, and as it really could be if we use what we have been given by God.

Our collective understanding of the mysteries of the Universe is about to increase. The foremost of which is the perception of who we are. This goal of understanding about  who we are, and why we are here, has consumed the better part of my own life path.

 Often we realize that, we indeed are “here to learn”. But what has everything we have collectively learned so far told us? What, if any, constant themes do we see that indicate the answers to these questions?  One thing we have collectively learned is that Love overcomes Fear.  That anything that has been crafted and created in the energy of fear, will ultimately destroy itself—and that includes everything from relationships to empires.

We learn that when we instead, create things in the energy of Divine Love, we create in the literal force that gives forth life (chi, prana). As a practitioner of Reiki, I can tell you that the Universal life force (reiki) is a force of love, and that is how it brings forth healing. We see this principle in all of nature, as it echoes secrets of sacred creation through harmonics and sacred geometry.

We are about to learn even more how it is that we are co-creators of the Reality in which we have before us. We are about to learn how to live in the reality of our conscious choices of what we wish to create and we are also about to learn how it is that we have the power to do so!  As dark times descend upon the world scene we need not be afraid, for our own inner light will indeed guide us as we travel our path.

 Come along on the Ascending Path! Enjoy, for as the saying goes, the journey IS the destination!  Ascend Within!

 –Raine

The Greatest Gift we Can Give Each Other

 The greatest gift I believe that we can give to each other is help each other ascend to the highest place within for each of us. This requires love and when we do this, we will begin to see that we are all connected by Source Energy and that power of Creation is the Energy of Love (not just a feeling but a power). When we have a have a mass awakening, then we will begin to understand the why questions we all have about life and so forth. We will perceive in our heightened conscious awareness, that we are beings created in Divine Light Energy and that when we love one another, we are loving ourselves. And when we harm one another, we are also harming ourselves. When we awaken more fully, we shall be free of the illusion that we are alone and separate from our Divine Source. It is as close as your next breath and yet often we are out of tune with this Prime Resonant energy of God. As drops in the collective  Ocean of Consciousness, we are helping to form our next evolutionary experience by the power of our thoughts and the vibrational nature of those thoughts. Our thoughts form the manifestation matrix of sacred geometry. As we learn how the vibrational frequency of our collective thoughts affects the Creation as a whole, we shall become more conscious of our intention in the process of what we create as our Reality.   As our intention resonates with love, toward self and others, we are creating a new world of love, and harmony with each of us operating out of our highest place within. That is the best gift we can give each other! 

 Ascend Within.

–Raine

In the past couple of generations, the notion of ‘casual sex’ has really taken hold in our culture and even the world. Finding its ideological roots in the “Free love” era of the 1960’s in America, casual sex rests on the idea of being able to connect with someone sexually, and yet have no emotional bond with that person.  Well, that sounds like a free sexual lunch for many, and they believe it is all without any kind of “cost”. Free love is free, right? No “strings” attached. Is that really what happens? Is it what consciously evolving souls should be engaging in? Should those who are called to embrace their awakening consciousness engage in such things as hooking up to a few friends with benefits?  Let’s take a little deeper look into something that many may feel uncomfortable looking at, and yet it is of vital importance to our soul evolution. 

 Did you know that when two people, two souls, make love physically, their aura energy fields literally blend? They become one in body but also in their conjoined energy field. If our heart is open to that person, then the two become one for that time. That’s what makes sexual intercourse so emotionally satisfying if allowed to be experienced at that level. Of course, casual sex is emotionally vacuous (empty), so with casual sex, you don’t experience this beautiful soul-bonding. If you are a consciously evolving soul and are sensitive to spirit, then this sort of soul-bonding in sex would be very important to you. You would realize that casual sex is just a form of stealing—you are using the other person to satisfy your carnal needs, and they in turn, are just using you. You take from each other only, without giving back. It is “take-take” instead of the “give-give” soul union sexuality that is experienced by those in a real soul mate union. The truly sad thing is that this cheap substitute for sexual experience is what so many have, and in many cases, some actually seek out. They want the pleasure it provides without what they perceive as the ‘cost’. And yet, the cost of casual sex is high. Let’s take a look at how much it really does cost.

 Emotional Cost

 There are emotional attachments made when two people are intimate sexually. This may be truer and more impacting for women than it is for men, though for consciously evolving men, I suspect the truth of this will ring out. Sexual intercourse is supposed to have a sacred element to it. We were made to connect physically as well as spiritually with our mates to be sure, but with casual sex, the emotional bonding that the two people start to feel for each other complicates the whole “no strings attached” mindset that casual sex rests upon.

 ”No strings” means that you want to be able to use the woman’s body to achieve sexual satisfaction for yourself, and maybe her as well, without any sort of emotional attachment involved. And as for women who are using the man sexually for their own reasons, you are only opening yourself up to unhappiness, and somewhere deep down you know this. Women are designed to be nurturers and as such are more attuned emotionally. The consciously evolving woman shouldn’t use her body to get things from men, just the consciously evolving man shouldn’t use women just for sex.  While it helped women in a couple other ways, yet the ‘feminist movement’ which promoted the whole sexual revolution of the 6o’s, claimed that “biology was not destiny” so therefore, it taught women that they can have sexual flings like a man and not have any real consequences from it. Is that really so? Should anyone, men or women, think that there are no consequences to this kind of lifestyle? Let’s take a look at just some of the emotional costs first, and then the spiritual, social and physical costs of ‘free’ love.

 Women have certain neurological chemical reactions to physical intercourse, which emanate from the emotional fulfilling aspect that sex was originally designed to have. As such, women tend to form emotional bonds with the men they sleep with. This is why sometimes women get upset when their casual sex partner is “hooking up” with another woman, or even when their man flirts with another woman. It all stems from a misuse of what sex is supposed to be about. Since women are made to be protectors of the family unit, including of course, their mates, it is instinctual that other females who pose a threat to that bond, will be treating on delicate emotional ground.

 False Intimacy

 To the evolving soul, one of the hidden emotional costs of casual sex is false intimacy. It seems to provide a kind of closeness, and women especially equate even just physical closeness, to love and romance. However, in casual sexual encounters, you avoid dealing with the real soul connections that would show you where you needed to grow in order to truly love yourself in a healthy manner, and how to love your partner in a fulfilling healthy manner. How can you be truly intimate with someone who is using you and you are using them?  Yet, those elements of self-acceptance, and the acceptance of your partner at their core essence, are what make for true intimacy. True intimacy, in turn, are what make for the best sexual experiences possible. So really, the false intimacy of casual sex is a thief designed to steal away your ability to experience true, ecstatic soul-ogasm,  where mind, body and spirit blend in the waves of pleasure that two souls in unison can create.

 The fear of real intimacy is one of the main reasons many people would rather engage in casual affairs, casual sex or even become a sexual swinger. Real intimacy requires you to be open, vulnerable and close to your partner. False intimacy is a stage show that allows you to escape the awareness that you may have of fears of rejection, and fears of being seen for who you really are. That is something that comes from deep down inside yourself, and no amount of sexual conquests that are used as validation for your false sense of self worth attained thereby, will change that. The only cure for the fear of intimacy starts with self-acceptance, just as you are. You have to get real to get right as they say.

 Commitment Phobia

 False intimacy is an outgrowth of its emotional cousin, commitment phobia. Since the so- called  liberalist “Sexual Revolution” of the 1960’s, a whole generation learned how to take and not give back sexually as well as learned how not to commit in either heart and soul or body. It’s the “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free” mindset that so many in the past several generations have developed.  Sex without commitment is acceptable to selfish people who have not yet highly evolved consciously, because it requires little or nothing from them.  It’s also acceptable to those who want to stay locked away in their own little fantasy realm of sexual conquest, where the number of people they ‘sleep’ with somehow is equated to their self-worth. Quantity as opposed to quality is what is sought after here, and in the end, you end up with a quantity of zero, after years of empty sexual encounters leads you down an exhaustive path, where you never have any sense of being accepted for who you are. This is because to be really accepted in both a sexual context, and in a relationship context, requires a commitment of the heart and soul, which is totally absent in the casual sex lifestyle.

 Commitment…hmmm! Even the word commitment makes some men want to find the nearest door by which to leave. However, is it commitment to someone special that is so scary, or is just commitment in general? Commitment indeed is a big step, but if there has been a groundwork of love put down as the foundation for a long lasting relationship, then suddenly, commitment can be seen as the doorway to an emotional bond of security that will produce the best sexual experiences.

 Mutual Disrespect

 The basis of having sexual encounters with someone whom you have no real heart commitment, is the setting stage for mutual disrespect, which is another of the major emotional costs of casual sex. Thanks to the so-called liberating ideas of the Sexual Revolution, women were more or less taught that if they wanted to “hook” a man, they had to use their bodies. So, they did, and more often than not, were shown disrespect by their casual sex partners because men generally don’t respect their causal sex partners. If they did, they wouldn’t be just using them for selfish gratification.

How is this liberation for a woman? Sex without love is little more than complicated masturbation! If two people who are just using each other passes for sexual enjoyment, I’d say that is more of an outgrowth of two selfish people who can’t commit to one another, nor do they respect themselves and their sex partner. The emptiness of such encounters reflects the mutual disrespect of both people. It is no wonder why so few seem capable of showing respect for each other these days. We have a culture based on disrespecting each other at our most vulnerable and intimate encounters.

 Unfulfilling Lifestyle

Generally speaking, if you live your life based on bad ideas and beliefs that are going to cause you long term pain just to get short term gain, you will live in a vicious cycle of frustration, leading to mood disturbances, and lack of satisfaction with life. Do most people who have a lifestyle of casual sex lead a more fulfilling, and satisfied life than those who do not?

  A 2006 study* done in Sweden of 2500 people  by researchers Langstrom and Hanson, found that the overwhelming majority of people who engaged in casual sex, were basically unhappy people, who were dissatisfied with life. They also had more relationship problems and had a harder time with substance abuse than did people in exclusive relationships. When you consider that the whole concept of casual sex is to treat others as just disposable objects to gratify your selfish needs, then it makes perfect sense that they would have more relationship problems. It’s because you don’t learn how to relate to another soul in a true intimate bond. Instead you learn to stay focused on your own ego, your own pleasure. It is a sad substitute for the beauty of intimacy that sexual union is supposed to be about. Of course, it all depends on where you’re at on your path in life. What you find acceptable and what you desire are but a soul mirror reflection of who you are and what level of development you’re at. So sure, this may all be ok with someone on a lower rung of the conscious evolution scale, but if you’re seeking higher ground, it may be time to re-think just how you interact on this intimate level with others.

 Physical Costs

 The sex industry makes a lot of money each year enticing us to take care of legitimate needs in a low road way through casual sex practices.  It is a campaign of sorts, with lots of money spent on its promotion and distribution.

 How much of the money spent on things like pornography and go-go bars, sex clubs, etc could be put to better use? Some men, instead of learning how to have true intimacy with their spouses or partners, and therefore achieving a more satisfying sexual experience, will instead turn to pornography to gratify their needs. And of course, in so doing, they are supporting an industry that exploits not only the women, but also the men, and even children (as child porn is also a huge part of the porn industry). This leads to even greater child sexual abuse as pedophiles, and other sexual deviants, seek to take out their dark desires on innocent victims. This leads to an overall darkening of the consciousness regarding handling our sensual natures. We are capable of so much more than that!

 Social Cost 

 In many ways, the children of the “sexual revolution” are children of a lost generation, which has resulted in the social costs of the casual sexual revolution. These kids were the contemporaries of my own generation–those who grew up not really knowing what it meant any longer to be “masculine’ or “feminine”. And although there were certainly some loosening up that needed to take place in terms of treating women better and with more respect than in previous generations, who had seen women as second class citizens, sex objects, and property of a man, yet the Sexual Revolution and the Women’s Lib movement did very little to add to the higher road of how the sexes should relate to one another on a higher level. 

 The people who became parents during the Sexual Revolution of the 1960-70’s produced children who grew up without any real role models for what a loving, committed, sexual relationship was like, so that produced the ‘lost generation” (Gen X-ers, and Gen-Y folks like me) who saw the huge rise of casual sex as a cultural phenomenon. This of course grew along with the resultant rise in unplanned pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and a degradation of the value of life in general. 

 The loss of our identity regarding the Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine, and the proper use of our sexuality has lead to a social breakdown. This preplanned liberal idea of breaking down the concepts of masculine and feminine has lead to so much gender confusion and role reversal that many do not  know  how to treat the opposite sex with love, grace, and respect.  Are women just “sex objects” to be used, or are they the embodiment of Divinity in the Feminine form? Are men just “studs” to be used for temporal pleasure, or are they the embodiment of Divinity in the Masculine form?  We become what we focus on, so even though we may not “be there” yet in full manifestation of our God-given identities, yet if we develop into what we ascribe to be, and what we were intended to be when created, then this reality will become more readily manifested in our collective future. If you are awaking to the reality of the veil of illusion that has been placed over your awareness on this, and other related issues, you will soon see the potential of that statement.

 While we’re on the topic, just what IS all this about the veil of illusion of which I often speak?  It is the fabric of perception of a false reality—a reality that is based on keeping us in a lower-vibration place, from which we can affect no true growth, lasting change or real love.  So, it is of the evolving soul’s best interest to be able to sharpen their discernment to be able to perceive it and stay out of its traps. When our perception is honed so as to see things as they really are, we see the costs of things not just in terms of money, emotion, or social affect, but also the biggest of costs—the spiritual costs.

We are mostly Spirit in Form. As such, there indeed are also spiritual costs of casual sex. 

 Spiritual Cost 

 Are we just bodies to be used for another’s pleasure or are we more? Do we have a spirit that needs to be nurtured through sex? These would be good things to begin asking yourself if you have not already.

 We must basically ask ourselves, what it is we most value and what we most want in this life. From that place we can find our truest and highest path—one which will be the most in alignment with who we truly are. So as you learn to ascend within, you will grow more in touch with the soul-deep answers to those things.

 Sexual intercourse can be a beautiful expression of a couple’s love for each other, especially as they are both attuned to each other. This kind of attunement energetically, is only achieved when you have been able to develop a true loving bond between yourself and your partner. When you have this bond with another, you are in a sense, making love all the time, just by continuoulsy generating that energy with each other. So, whether you’re reading a book together and discussing it, or if you’re doing chores together, or any other mundane activity, if you are connected at the soul level, you are “making love” with each other in non-sexual ways. This kind of build up on an on-going basis, is what leads to fulfillment inthe bedroom.

 We create our own emptiness in this area of our lives when we accept a substitute, such as casual sex, for the true intimacy, real love and commitment that a spiritually thriving relationship will give you. We have been sold a lie about “free love”.  Is it really “free” love or just very expensive pain?

Instead of the short cuts and the substitutions, the ascending soul would be wise to seek out the Source of love,sex and fullfillment and seek God to lead you to the one who will be able to complete you in this way with fullfillment and lasting joy. Be blessed in your search!

 “When you get down to it, sex without love is really just complicated masturbation.” –Raine

 *Ref—quoted in Psychology Today, Aug.15, 2010